Lady Bugged with a "Terrible Problem"

Dear Dr. Jim

I'm having a terrible situation which seems to be perpetuating.   

I hope that you can help me with me in sorting out this problem getting-to-be ordeal.  It may ruin my life if it keeps going on.

So, when I talk or write and I need one of these two words to be used, "less" or "fewer". 

Sincerely and devotedly attentive to my Grammer being correct,

Snyderbergg, "Two G's Lady, perplexed"

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Well, Ms. Two G's, 

I would indeed think there is a BIG PROBLEM here.  So big you might see, soon, or later, your psychiatrist about.  It is very much big for you. And for me, because I feel for you. 

First, I will tell you how I personally handle this, it does appear now and then.  Mostly I mind what is said by my gut and follow it.  It seems that as much as I write that I would have come to this junction and came by some sort of instinctive miracle took place and doing that have done okay.  No complaints or making fun.  

But had it appeared I personally would ask one of a few grammar teachers that I know, just for this situation, which I should ask and follow her or him. 

Second, before seeing the doctor, look it up.  I checked with google and she told me the following:  

"Depending on the subject type given: 

Examples

Images

Books

Videos

News

Shopping

Maps

Perspectives

Flights

Finance

All filters

'Fewer' and 'Less'

It goes like this: fewer is used to refer to number among things that are counted, as in "fewer choices" and "fewer problems"; less is used to refer to quantity or amount among things that are measured, as in "less time" and "less effort."

per Meriam-Webster.

(posted by Dr. Jim 

http://jimmiehov8.blogspot.com/?m=1 )"

I'm with you, probably thinking, "How does this fit my dilemma?"  Well try and see if one or the others sound like the one.  I relate this to making the selection of choices shown by the shoe salesperson, buy a pair that both fits and looks good FOR ME. 

I hope this helps, 

Dr. Jim, who has an answer, of sorts at least 

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Lonesome Lady Needs Friends

Dear Dr. Jim 

This is a hard to describe problem.  In a nutshell, I am lonely.

I shouldn't be because I am married but my hubby is a "Stick in the Mud".  He doesn't like to go anyplace except to work and to the gas station to gas up our car.  He watches a lot of TV, even travel pictures but they haven't shown him any place he might want to go.

We don't have any friends or relatives to speak of, I have a few Facebook "friends".  But I don't really know any of them, just they wanted to befriend me.  "The Stick" doesn't even do that or want a computer at all.  I would die without mine. 

I hope you can help me, 

Lonesome Beverly in Scranton 

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Well, Lonesome Beverly, this is a sweet and sour write today. I feel like a Dr. Jim help note is needed here. Best for you is to associate with a group of widow ladies, hoping that some of them also like to dance. There are always some lady couples on the dance floor. 

Far out, and really works better for men is to try for being a professional dance escort aboard a line of cruise ships. Who knows, you might fit with someone who really cares for you. That second one is sort of on my standby bucket list, in case I am the survivor partner in our marriage. 

Before we moved to the west suburb of Houston there were a group of widow ladies who had made a waiting list for me. That probably isn't now, dissolved, although two of them have moved here also. 

A tidbit, I holed up for three years after a painful and expensive divorce (13 years married) I fortunately was surprised by my now wife at a landlady's monthly supper. My roommate and his then girlfriend convinced Mrs. Jim to wait for me as I had a class that night. One never knows, we have been married 49 years; she likes dancing more than I do though we are dancing.  

I still have one Janis Joplin CD sitting next to my Willie Nelson CD to use for practice to keep my dancing up.  So why not take as cruise, leave "Stick" home.   

Who knows, on your own, you might decide to ditch the "Stick" and get on your own. 

I hope this helps, 

Wannabe Cruise Ship Dancer (when I retire) 

Dr. Jim, Professor  

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Worried Wife Gets Nervous

Dear Dr. Jim 

I have a problem.  It seems that when we are going some place I get nervous.

First of all I ask myself over and over, "Self, have you done everything you need to do before I leave?"  Sometimes that thought process it lasts so long that it makes me late for where I am going. Then I get really angry at myself for making me late.

Second though, is my constant worry that the rest of us or even others going with us won't be ready to go when I get ready.  I worry about this too, a lot.  

Sometimes my worry gets to my husband and the others and then they too become angry, at me. 

Please, Dr. Jim, I need your help with my problem.

Worried and Angered Sealy 

In Neverland, Iowa

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Dear Sealy, W&A 

I feel for your situation.  My daughters have this problem also, it is quite common.  

Researchers have discovered also that it is much more common in ladies than with men.  So then they researched along that vein. 

The research lead to a chromosome that is generally not common to women but very prevalent among men. 

Since I am not a medical doctor I won't attempt to diagnose your or others whether or not you or they fit along these lines or that this idea is even true. 

Most I have told this mentioned to their GP's and after a fairly thorough medical exam were referred to a 'neuro' doctor and were helped. 

I hope this helps you and your family situation

Let me know the Doc's verdict,

Dr. Jim 

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Husband would come in the fitting room with his wife. Is that Okay?

Dear Dr. Jim 

Well, Doctor, I'm pretty pertabated today.  My Missus is shopping for dresses, they hardly trade in those anymore. 

So I'm sitting in a nice chair at the entrance to the lady's fitting rooms. There's no one to fit you any more either. Things just aren't like they used to be. 

That also goes for shopping for clothes with your lady friend as well.  I'm the only guy in this whole store, about like the six. 

That gets to my question.  

Is it alright for me, her husband, to help the Missus with her fit in the dressing room? 

Just Like to Help the Missus; 

  in Need Help, Arkansas

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Dear JLHM 

Hi there, I hope maybe you've fixed this situation up by now.  I do hope so because I sure don't want to say anything bad off the cuff here.  

Let me start with these words, MOST WOMEN FEEL UNCOMFORTABLE WHEN A MAN IS IN THERE WITH THEM IN THE LADIES DRESSING ROOMS, even if all the other doors are closed or the curtains pulled. 

Saying that, I would not recommend that your Hub come into the dressing room with you.

If you would feel comfortable wearing your debatable purchase it is alright for you to wear it out in the Husband Waiting Area for him to see and help you if he can. 

And don't you dare say that I said he might sneak in if you two would be the only ones in the dressing room area.  I have seen that being done, most time that keeps the other women from coming in. 

I hope this helps, please keep your modesty for the rest of us. 

Any readers have something to say about this advice?

Dr. Jim, ambassador for doing right 

Oh yes, I do like the nickname, or is it her given, "Missus".  Sometimes I call my wife "Missy."

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No Free Medical Advice from This Doc

Dear Dr. Jim 

I have been having this problem and don't know how to handle it. 

It started with a pain in my left shoulder being stiff.  I woke up with it hurting that way.  

The next morning my left hip was stiff and hurting, the shoulder was some better.  By night my left foot also hurt though my shoulder had stopped hurting. 

A day later that same problem was affecting my right shoulder, then migrated to my hip and down to my right toe. 

Next day it was my left shoulder all over again.  Finally the pain moved to my left hip.and stopped there.  

Well Doc, any ideas what is wrong with me?

Hurting in St Paul, Arthur Cheapy

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Dear Art Cheap 

You know I'm not a Medical Doctor so I am not qualified to give you medical.advice.  My doctorate is in Law so in education I am entitled to the name prefix of Doctor, abbreviated "Dr."  

And if with using  that title we retire from academia then we are entitled to keep using it in retirement, which I have done.

Now, my free advice.  Sometimes what you save by avoiding expense costs a lot more than doing things right.

That said my curiosity got the best of me so I ran your story by my physician.  

Right away he scolded me for trying to get free medical advice from him worse than I was telling you.  Nevertheless he did give me a hint that this sounds like the behavior of osteoarthritis.  

He said that if he was right you should see your doctor right away for treatment before it gets any worse. 

That was the good news.  He said there isn't a cure for that but medicine can for sure ease the pain and sometime it may also slow its growth, but not much most times. 

So my free advice for you Mr. Cheapy, is to stop being cheap and go see your medical doctor.  

Let me know the Doc's verdict, Dr Jim  

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Wife knows she was right -- Husband thinks he is right

Dear Dr. Jim

Sometimes The Hub, my husband, is a clunce.  He  really pulled my string yesterday. 

I was telling him of a new title his favorite author had released. The title was "Murder in Monterey" and it seems he had already known of it. 

So I offered to pick up a copy for him in the afternoon when I was out.  He thanked me and told me that he would really enjoy reading of his favorite detective's  adventures in Alabama, as he himself had always wanted to visit there. 

When I said it was in Monterey,  Monterey California, he began arguing with me and saying he had seen a picture of the cover and it was Montgomery.  

I couldn't convince him that I was right and that has ruined our day. I even told him to his face that he was being a clunce.

Dr. Jim, if you could get him to see my side I'd really appreciate your efforts.   Thank you.

"Generally Right" in Torrance 

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Dear Ms. Right

Oh my goodness, Ms. Right,  of course you were right again here. That, though, should not have been the issue.

You are NAUGHTY. Naughty to The Hub. When The Man is wrong tell him so, nicely. But just once, then let it ride.

He'll find out when you get him the book and he reads for himself. Then, if you haven't pushed the issue too hard and if you don't keep rubbing it in, he MIGHT apologize.

Not a big deal so don't you make it one. That is my Dr. Jim advice for the moment.

BTW there may have been a name problem here unless you have made up a new word. Clunce.

That may be true, you were thinking of two names, Clutz and Dunce.  Each has its own meaning, G o o g l e them as you might then decide you didn't want to use either one.

BTW, I have a friend who invented a new word. I helped her to enter it into the online Urban Dictionary ( https://www.urbandictionary.com ).

Your word, 'Clunce', is not there as of now. You may wish to enter it with a definition of your choice.

I hope this helped.  If you think I was too hard on you here please forgive me. (But I think I WAS RIGHT this time.)

Dr. Jim in Fulshear/Katy

p.s. "Pulling ones string" generally has the illusion of pulling a leash,  such as a leash attached to a dog's collar.

"Pulling one's 'chain' on the other hand gets one riled up when the stopper is pulled out, as the water in a sink as it swirls going down into the drain.

Just saying, Dr. Jim


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Timely advice for the Ides, of the city of March

Dear Dr. Jim

I am very much concerned regarding our safety here our little city of March.  As tomorrow is the National 'Ides of March' Day, our name is a natural for harassment.  I.e, "Beware the Ides of March."

Perhaps you could be of help to us with this matter.  I am sorry for the short notice I have given you.

You loyal reader and fan,
Gloria and Mr. Ides, fun object on the little city of March

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My Dear Mr. and Mrs. Ides,

 

Today I write heavy hearted for the travails and tragedies that are bound to occur in your small village today. Or is it a city birthing there in your March?

 

Your two lane roads have become expressways, your fields of green grass and purple bloom, and the crop of corn in Farmer Jones place have gone away. Ceded in their stead to what seems to be an army moving in with houses as far as the eye can see, all dress right dressed in rows of boxes.
 
This is a request for you to warn your neighbors and friends. Beware that, as the old saying goes, and I'm not putting you to blame, that the Ides there in March celebrate as if there would be no tomorrow.

And you two as leaders of your clan, and ones of my dearest friends, can make lasting change in your town.  For me this year, would you please for tomorrow, stay in, and ask the rest of the family to do so also.

 

If you'll tell yourselves, "Beware the Ides of March," change can occur.   Your neighbors soon, as the years pass, will see that this warning is becoming passé and will be a legend only.

 

"The lamb will lie with the lions" The town will no longer fear the Ides on this day, the fifteenth of March. Their City of March will have become a haven for all.

 

In good faith and a prayer

I, Dr. Jim, say to you and yours,
Beware the Ides of March

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Leaking Power Steering Pump

Dear Dr. Jim
 
MY POWERSTEERING HAS A HUGE LEAK. AND IVE BEEN FILLING IT AND KEPT DRIVING. IT STOPPED WORKING AND IS STILL Hard TO turn.
 
I was driving this morning and my car started making this squealing noise like the belt was squealing. Then it started to smoke and it still drives but I am not sure what is wrong with my Pontiac Grand Prix GT 2000, 3.8L.
 
Heather in Vegas Town

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Dear Heather
 
I am sorry to hear this, about the squealing and smoking.  Right away the squealing says that your power steering pump has frozen up.  Probably caused by driving your car when the pump is empty of oil.
 
The smoking is bad, bad.  Next your belt will break because of the friction that also caused the squealing.  By this time it probably has already broken and you were forced to get another power steering pump and a new belt. 
 
A suggestion about replacements.  First, always buy a new belt.  It will last a long time if nothing gets dry and freezes, causing belt friction when it slips.
 
Next though, you have three choices about finding a pump replacement.  Most times the ones you will get either from (1) the dealer or (2) an auto parts place will be a rebuilt pump.   This is perfectly okay, possibly better than the factory new pump.
 
Your third place (3) is from a 'junk yard', more likely called a "Used Auto Parts" business.  I like to find one still in the car as then I will better be able to evaluate its quality.   Try to find one that has recently been replaced.  Those won't be as greasy and messy as the older original ones. 

If you find one very recently replaced then probably the belt had also been replaced at that time and it will be almost as good as new.  This third option WILL BE A LOT CHEAPER, perhaps 1/4 to 1/3 of the rebuilt price.

Also negotiate with the junk yard that the pump should work and if it doesn't you will be allowed to find another one there or get a refund.

The sales person for every option here will want your old pump returned so it can be rebuilt.  If you haven't taken it off yet and can't bring it in right then they will charge you a CORE CHARGE.  That charge will be refunded to you when you get your old pump to the sales place.

I put a rebuild automatic transmission in my 1987 Chevy Tahoe pickup and it lasted longer than the original, still was going when I sold the truck.  I paid $50 for the transmission and $50 to a mechanic for labor of putting it in my truck.  Replacing it at the dealer would have cost me over $1500 for a rebuilt transmission job.  Prices are higher now than back in the late 1990's.

I hope this helps,

Dr. Jim
 
BTW, any time a car is leaking fluid you should find out the cause and have it corrected as soon as practical.  Often driving a car low in fluids can end up costing MUCH MORE than just fixing the leak. 

If it leaks or runs low on motor oil it could ruin the engine and you would have to buy a replacement using my three options that I gave for the water pump. 

YES, you can even buy a used engine at the 'junk yard'.  Same goes for most any replacement part.

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Lady has concern for the way men are looking

Dear Dr. Jim

I am concerned for the men in the The Millennials - Gen Next and of the upcoming Generation Z as to the way they wear their pants.  The picture I am sending you shows what I think they should be looking like.

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Please help me out with this,

 Concerned Pristina in Old Waveyland   

 

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Dear Pristina

 

Your parents aptly named you.  Only one better that I can think of would be Victoria.  Are you British? 

 

After looking again at your picture and the type of men you portray, it seems that you could fit into their world very nicely.  Its source is  obviously a red neck country magazine, I change my mind.  It should be Minnie Mae.

 

I have counseled with women on many occasions, even speaking on the subject at times.  Here is my stock "short" answer to your concern:

 

"Since there aren't any men taking issue here, I will speak on "baggy" pants for men.
Most women are envious of the men's 'tight and muscular' butt, still enjoy looking to their heart's content.
Most men like freedom, freedom from tight and binding pants. "Baggy" is the ultimate in freedom. We dress for the moment."

 

I feel that you have more interest in your basal desires than for the comfort of men.  If you could overcome this you would be a lot closer to becoming a women who "fits into society."

 

Hope this helps ~~ Thanks as always for asking, Dr. Jim

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"California Girl" needs help answering her flower question

Dear Dr. Jim

I have this pretty flower growing 'wild' beside my driveway.  I looked it up in my plant book and found it to be a 'Lupine'. 

My friend from Texas told me that this was all wrong, that is a Texas Bluebonnet. 

Dr. Jim, since you are from Texas I thought I would let you decide for us what my flower really is.

Thank you for helping,
California Girl

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Dear California Girl

It's soooo pretty, C Girl.  For sure it is a keeper.  I would have called it one of OUR Texas Bluebonnets also.

But it can't be because you live in California So I asked "Yahoo answers" if there was a difference (link). They satisfied me with this answer:
"Best Answer: The Texas Bluebonnet is Lupinus texensis, so it is a type of Lupine. The species is native to Texas. (There are actually several species of bluebonnet, but L. texensis is generally "the" Texas Bluebonnet). "

Which means yours probably is NOT a Texas Bluebonnet but rather it is another species of Lupines.

Hope this helps, Dr. Jim

Oh yes, I am not 'from' Texas, I am 'from' Nebraska.  But I got here, to Texas, as fast as I could.  And now I have lived here for years and years, more years probably than you have lived. 

And BTW, collect some seeds from it as you will need to reseed this plant every year. ~~ Thanks as always for asking, Dr. Jim

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Wanted: Gift Suggestions for Shade Tree Mechanics

Dear Dr. Jim

I am writing you for some suggestions for Christmas and birthday presents.

What I have in mind would be items that shade tree mechanics might be needing to keep the family car in good shape.

They fix my car too, Ima Goode, Indiana resident

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Dear Ima,

There are over ten thousand nice items in various auto parts stores and catalogs.  I would recommend without blushing NAPA Auto Parts stores.  There probably is one near you, we have three close by located in three different towns in three directions from our home.

You can do mail order or shop on line from most of these companies as well.  NAPA provides me with a calendar every year.  Check these of mine (link).

What to buy?

1.  Shop around at the stores

2.  Go on the Internet

3.  Try from this list I got from eMail.  They may laugh at the idea of some too  (I won't vouch for every item on this list):

"Automotive Gift Suggestions... Just in Time for Last Minute Christmas Shopping!

If you have an "automotive minded" person in your life, these gift suggestions should be considered.

1. Tire Air Change Kit. This kit comes with everything you need to change the air in your tires. This highly recommended but often overlooked maintenance item is much easier now. Remember to change your air every 3000 miles or twice a year. $25

2. Blinker Fluid. You knew it existed but, WOW, is this stuff hard to find. 4oz bottle. $12

3. Synthetic Blinker Fluid. Better yet! 4oz bottle. $24

4. Light Bulb Filaments. Why throw away a perfectly good turn signal or stop light bulb when you can just install a new filament? Premium Filaments, made in the USA! $1 each.

5. Manifold Heat. Yes, your exhaust manifold should be HOT. If it's not, you may need this item. Sold by the pound. $3.50

6. Steering Wheel Gaskets. All SIZES available! Email for specific application. From $9.99

7. Tie Rod Tensioner. Is your tie rod limp? Tension it with T-50! $14.99

8. Alternator Batteries. (4 required, replace them all!) From $2.99

9. Fan Belt Buckles. Specify brass or chrome. Gold available special order. $14.99

10. Muffler Bearing Manual. Print version $59.95

11. Muffler Bearing Manual. CD version $49.99

12. Universal Muffler Bearing Tool Kit $105.59

13. Muffler Bearing Hi Temp Synthetic Lube (the only kind we sell!) $40.24

14. Muffler Bearings From $19.95

15. Muffler Bearing Gasket Kits From $9.99

16. Momentum (required for tackling some off road obstacles). Sold by the lb-ft/sec $0.50

17. Microsoft Windows Eliminator. If your car or truck begins to run poorly, (long time to start, frequent crashes, etc.), it's computer, (ecm, ecu, black box, etc.), may have become infected with this nasty computer virus. This product will safely remove the virus. $199

18. Mirror Image Flipper Film. Did you know that the image you see in your rear view mirrors are reversed! This is a manufacturing flaw that the auto companies have kept secret for years as the recall would cost BILLIONS! This film can be cut and placed over any mirror to correct the image. Now you'll be able to read signs in the rear view mirror! $5 per square ft."

Some of our readers may have suggestions of their own too.  Caveat, I will not vouch or check donated suggestions out.  As with all donated and Internet help, I would ask your regular certified mechanic about all suggestions, even mine.

Ima, I hope this helps,
as usual, Dr. JIM

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Her feet hurt when wearing shoes

Dear Dr. Jim

I'm writing this in hopes that you can help me out. 

My feet are killing me!  Seems none of the shoes I ever can buy really fit me.  At least that is what my son tells me.

What can I do with this if the shoes don't seem to be helping my feet?

Ms. Tenderfoot in Basking Land

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Dear Ms. Tenderfoot

Your shoe story is great!  My uncle used to say that 'if the shoe didn't fit then don't wear it.'  That is the gist of your problem, I like that you've figured that much out!  Beware of your son's not-so-helpful advice.

My foot doctor has me wear athletic shoes all the time with an arch support, the green generic kind that sporting goods stores sell.  Mine are NIKE runing shoes.  My church and dress shoes are a pair of black walking shoes also fitted with arch supports.

Without the arch supports my feet get to hurting pretty fast.  You might like to try that with the arch supports.

Hope this helps, Dr. Jim

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Dear Dr. Jim
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I am having a BIG problem. When I peel boiled eggs big hunks of the whites come off with the shells. Obviously if I peel them I want the resulting bare egg to look nice. This doesn't happen and I wind up with ugly deviled eggs.
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If you could help me I would really appreciate it. People tease me when I bring a dish having hard boiled eggs to church.
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I'm watching for your answer,
Boiled Billie of Baxter, Wyoming
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Dear B'd Billie 
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Mrs. Jim was having this problem just a few days ago. Here is our account: 
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"Mrs. Jim asked me why her four hard boiled eggs weren't peeling good when the rest of them all peeled so good two days before.

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Jim to the resuce. "They are cold, sweetheart. Warm the shells and they will peel fine."

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No sooner said than done. Voilà!—problem solved (pronounced "vwallah"). She ran the other three eggs in their shells under our hot water faucet and they all peeled fine.
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Was this a coincidence? Try it yourself next time you are having trouble. Warm eggs just peel easier than cold ones, take it from Dr. Jim."
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So what do you say?

Hope this helps, Dr. Jim

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Finding a companion helps

Dear Dr. Jim

I am writing to you in hopes of finding myself a companion.  For six years now I have been seeing this doldrums older man.  Now I have realized that there is no hope for a lasting and God blessed relationship to develop from any more of living like this.

I am thirty-seven years old, female, and a Christian with blue eyes and blond hair.  My height is five foot five inches and I weigh 115 pounds.  I graduated in my high school in the top ten percent of my class and have attended college a year and a half studying English for a major.

I am sending you my picture but please do not post it on the Internet with this letter.

Thank you, Dr. Jim.  I hope very much that you can help me.

Bea (for Beatrice) in Butlerville, Nebraska

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Dear Ms. Bea

As you have been reading my posts of the past you will not find any matchmaking posts.  I do not wish to start finding people dates now or ever.  Your picture is fine but please don't go passing it around.  Looks alone doesn't go much beyond opening a door.

However I will try to give you a few hints.  First off, yes by all means ditch the old man.  That may be hard as you two have been knowing each other for several years now.  But after that time if he had thought very much of you he would have asked for your hand in marriage. 

That is the gentleman thing to do and you haven't mentioned that this has happened.  After a proposal then it is up to you as to what will follow.  Marriage I recommend as it helps cement this relationship by giving it a sense of permanency.

So assuming you two split, then consider yourself 'in the market' for a new companion.  Where to look?  My mother always told me that I would not find a nice girl in a bar.  Per her recommendation I suggest that you not let yourself be found in a bar.  For a Christian to be found in a bar it will always make you feel a little ashamed and demeaning to yourself.  Heaven only knows what the fellow will be thinking.

I would recommend that you find a church with a nice singles program and start visiting church and its activities frequently.  If they don't suit you look for another.

Another thing to do is to enroll in a college class at night.  It wouldn't hurt to finish your degree if you still want this training.  Or you could explore fields of study by taking the corresponding introductory classes.  If it fits your plan, then choose areas of study where there will be at least as many men in class as women, or more.

I always told my students to get a dog if their landlord would allow.  While it might be forward or hard because of timidness for someone to walk up and chat with one of the other sex there really aren't many problems with admiring a dog.  Of course he has to chit chat with you, the owner, about the pet as the pet can't return your comments in conversation. 

After a few times of this meeting with the pet it will be time for one of you to ask for a meeting in a different setting.  Like a coffee shop or a cozy, not-too-fancy, restaurant.  Or go to church or visit your class if the prof would concur.

It wouldn't have to be exactly like this but you get the drift.  Meet and get acquainted.  Then evaluate each other in light of each of your objectives and goals for a mate.  Who knows?  If love steps in then this will all come more naturally.  But give it a chance.

Amazon.com has self help dating books, as does your library.  Find one that seems to fit your situation. Amazon has these, and see if your library does: Dating for thirties (three titles); Dating for middle age (thirty-five titles, one works because I know some one who used one of these techniques).  Also Google can help try asking your librarian.

Hope this helped a little,  Dr. Jim

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Reader will soon be 70 and wants to drown himself!

Dear Dr. Jim

About a dear reader, Mr. Buzzy Munso, drowning himself in a sea of 7-UP.

That was all because of him going to have his 70th birthday.

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♪♪Happy Birthday to you,♪♪
♪♪Happy Birthday to you,♪♪
♪♪Happy Birthday Dear Mr. Munso,♪♪
♪♪Happy Birthday to you.♪♪

I agree, the 70th BDay is pee-poor!
On my 70th I was going to run away. Well I did, but I ended up running with Mrs. Jim and Karen to NYC. Not literally running but Karen did run the NYC Marathon that year. She invited Mrs. and me to come with her. Otherwise I would have gone by myself.

Same for the 75th, it is worse. Again I was going to run away but Mrs. Jim wanted me to go with her to the WorstFest in NewBraunfels, TX, so WE did that instead. I blogged about it which I think you read.

But the nastiest BDay of all is 78. I was like you, really down. No parties, no one comes near, and the like! That is the age when you SOUND OLD! 68 SOUNDS OLD too, but 78 IS OLD!

So for your sake, SHOULD I hope you never make it to be that old? Or SHOULD I be praying for you that you will make it?

Love you, Mr. Buzzy! <3 You do fine!

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Advice from Dr. Jim (previously posted here) today:

You and your sweetheart go see a romantic movie tonight. It's okay to rent one although the popular Red Box may be running low by evening. There will be a run on the 'chick flicks'.

Do I mind my own advice?

No, Mrs. Jim and I will go to dinner and watch a dinner play.

This one is a mystery dinner theatre with audience participation.

I am hoping to can figure out whodunit (for "Who done [did] it?) before the play detective does!

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Health Tip Of The Week from the Mayo Clinic newsletter:

"Craving chocolate? Go dark

Dark chocolate can be high in calories, but it may be a good choice if you're craving something sweet. Flavanols in dark chocolate appear to reduce risk factors for heart disease. Choose dark chocolate with cocoa content of 65 percent or higher. Limit yourself to no more than 3 ounces (85 grams) a day, which is the amount shown in studies to be helpful. Cut calories in other areas or step up the exercise to compensate for the extra calories.

Need practical advice on diet and exercise? Want creative solutions for stress and other lifestyle issues? Try a daily dose of healthy lifestyle tips from MayoClinic.com. "

Today there isn't much blue in the world, at least I'm hoping. I did write a blue poem today. Sorry 'bout that. Once again, HAPPY VALENTINE'S DAY!

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