Tuesday, March 10, 2009

Hubby doesn't want to go shopping with his wife -- says wife expects to much of him

Dear Dr. Jim

My wife has unreal expectations from me. I love her company but just listen to this little vignette.

She wants me to go with her shopping for her some new clothes. It isn't the clothes or spending money I object to, but she always does this to me. She drags me along to every little store and several malls.

My feet are wearing out just thinking of all that walking. We go and go and go. I would say an easy five miles in just this one day.

And Dr. Jim, all the ladies trying on those little clothes and dresses look at me like I am a vagrant come in to ogle.

Besides that, this is the time this year for the U.S. Men's Clay Court Championships Matches. I hate to miss even a one of those.

So please can you help me, Please, Please, Please

I.M.P. in Toulouse, NH

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Well Mr. P, I can't feel very sorry for you. You should be grateful your BW (best wife) wants you to go shopping with you. Mine hardly ever invites me.

When she does, I always take plenty of reading material and my lap top. When my feet get tired, I find a bench outside (in your cold and snow, you might have to be inside), sit and read.
When I get tired of reading, I blog. I just love it that we have the Internet free all over the area. That was our first economic stimulus.

You shouldn't waste your time watching tennis. Besides most tennis fans (not the players) develop arthritis of the neck with all that twisting to see from side to side. Even the TV watcher fans get that.

Oh well, there probably isn't much help with you, but give her a break and be a nice little husband once in a while. It might do your marriage good, you can talk in the car and if she will sit with you on the bench, help things still more.

I hope this helps one of you, Dr. Jim

Note: I really don't mind being with and looking at all those women either. I get lots of smiles, winks, and pats. Dr. Jim

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Ray said...

Will asking your spouse to do things he doesn't like make him more fond of you?

His wife ought not ask him to shop with her. He's not going to have a good time, and so she's creating stress in the marriage. She's being selfish. If she wants to connect with him and enjoy him, why not ask him to do something they both enjoy?

Hootin' Anni said...

I'd much prefer to go shopping for clothes by myself instead of dragging hubby along with me. He gets too grumpy and takes all the fun out of the experience. So, if you will....bring me your wife...and you can take my dear man...watch the matches while the two of us ladies go shopping. How's that?

sue said...

My husband used to hate to go anywhere like the grocery store or shopping.

But he is recently retired due to his company giving out early retirement packages.

I dreaded having him home since that is where I do everything I enjoy.

It's been three weeks and he willingly goes to the grocery store and other places. He unloads the dishwasher, etc, and things he had never done before.

I'm amazed that it is working out so well - I think it is because we are both trying.

Klay Kisses said...

That explains it! I have always wondered why my husband loves me so much. I am far from perfect. It is because I hate shopping. I really do. I know, women like to shop. Not me. Even the grocery store is a horrible place to be.
Have a great and happy day all!